You know when you’re in that first lovely flourish of a relationship where you just can’t keep your hands off one another! Where even the slightest brush of his (or her) hand makes your spine tingle and you seem to lean towards each other because even a few inches is too far apart? Aww!!
Now, remember when you went clubbing last week and had to walk past that couple in the toilets? You know the one, she was pretty much sat in the sink while he stood between her legs an…well…I think we can guess…you’ll have to because let’s be honest you didn’t attempt to look closer. Eww!!
PDA’s – Public displays of affection; in my opinion they’re all relative! What a person considers appropriate will vary depending on their upbringing, beliefs and (I hate to say it) how attractive they find the people involved (Why is it that ‘pretty’ people can get away with more than ‘ugly’ ones? Maybe you’ll disagree but it’s been proven, ask Google!). Personally seeing people kiss, hold hands, sit on each other’s laps etc. doesn’t upset me like it does others, while hands on bottoms (or other ‘inappropriate’ places), any dodgy noises and full blown open mouthed tonsil tennis does tend to make me feel slightly uncomfortable.
The thing that bothers me is I couldn’t tell you why. What is it about these actions that I don’t like? And where in my past was it drummed into me that to do these things in public is inappropriate? I’m not religious, come from an affectionate family, wasn’t banned from watching television after the watershed but somehow have still managed to acquire this mind-set. Maybe it’s all part of the things that earned me that nickname I mentioned yesterday and I was actually meant to have been born in the 1800’s…though I’m hardly a candidate for Stepford Wife of the year, so maybe not!
I can’t even use the rule of thumb of ‘if you wouldn’t do it in front of your parents don’t do it in front of me’ because I would quite happily kiss someone on the lips in public but would not in front of my parents or most of people I know (unless I thought they weren’t looking :P). This could be something to do with the freedom of anonymity. Do we care less about the opinions of strangers when we will not have to suffer their comments? In this case it would appear so!
To me there will always be certain things I’ll ‘aww’ at; people of ANY age holding hands, pecks on the cheek, boys holding the door open for their ladies…that kind of thing. I also think there’s a time and a place for pashing. Railway stations and airports – i.e. ‘hi’s and goodbyes’ are ok, but watch those hands! However…tongues, fondling and grinding? Eww…get a room!
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